We have been told our whole lives that “you can’t have your cake and eat it too,” but maybe you can. How you interact and position yourself with others can make the difference between wanting it all and having it all.
Dave Kerpen recently published an article on Inc.com called, “ How to Get Everything You Want. Seriously.” In the article he brings up seven main points that can help you be successful not only personally, but also professionally.
A few points really stand out and even though they seem like common sense, are rarely used today. The first point is: Listen First and Never Stop Listening. 
Today, we are so busy thinking about what we are going to say next that we forget to stop and listen to what is actually being said. By listening to others, you can figure out their problems, which leads us to the second point: Help Others. Once you are able to figure out what someone needs, help them. Dave states, “Help first, without expecting anything- and the returns will be enormous.” When you are willing to help someone without expecting anything in return you will come off as genuine and build trust. These people will then help you get where you want to be in return. For example, say you help a friend with a major business issue they have been having. They may then pass along a recommendation to other companies and build your status in the industry.
Another major point he brings up is: Tell, Don’t Sell. This ties into his next point: Inject Passion Into Every Interaction. Be inspiring when trying to get what you need. Don’t just ask for it, tell a story. Engage the people around you and make them want to be part of that story. Passion is contagious, Dave states, and showing that you are dedicated and excited about an opportunity will motivate others to want to help.
Overall, you can be successful in everything you want if you make a conscious effort to do so. So next time someone tells you, “ you can’t have your cake and eat it too” remind yourself that you can, and you will.
To read the full article, click here.
